Your life is too fast. You got to slow down brother !!

Wow . Hold on ‘brother’. First of all, what did you say? Yeah, you get to hear those saintly philosophical words time to time, if you are successful and you ask someone for help !! As a kid I liked to travel a lot in bus. Yeah the typical super express NH-17 bus to hell, direct ticket !! :P So when I got into bus, I usually try to sit in the last row of seats near to the door, just next to the conductor or cleaner( I don’t know who coined this profession). So that was my favorite seat. Cool breese blowing to your face, lot of people to watch, getting into and out of bus. But my most favorite moment is to watch the tar road pass by very fast as the bus moved. So I used to wonder how fast the bus was, but in reality the bus was not that fast. Then after sometime I used to feel nausea and terrible so I would immediately shift my eyesight towards a faraway view. Which almost never moved. Then when I felt better, I would again watch to the road below footboard move terribly fast.

I am sure most of you have experienced this phenomenon as a kid or adult. I feel there is a learning in this to take away. When the bus is moving, and when you look at the road just below, it creates an illusion that your life is fast. The person who is outside watching the bus will also see that the bus is moving fast. However, you and only you know when to stop looking the road below, and not the person outside the bus. Secondly, when you feel like your life is moving uncontrollably very fast, just focus on the long term goals because when you focus on short term goals too much, the time limit is so less that you get an illusion of moving fast. So just like we look at a far view from a bus to get back to normal condition, concentrate on the long term goals. The more far the long term goal is the better because from the bus when you look at the sun or star or moon, it feels like we are not moving at all !!

Just an analogy to share with you. My favorite line, “I am neither RIGHT  nor WRONG, because my thoughts are CENTERed, around the people I observe and the incidents I experience. So believe it or let it be !!” :P

Remember when you see the moon, sun or star from the bus and you feel dizzy. Its time to get down of the bus and walk for some time !! J

Even GOD Knows Politics !! :P

"Nobody can ask God to retire, because in Politics no one retires !! " Good reason for S to join politics !! At least no body can ask him to retire anymore !! He has made his words come true for himself,

"no-one-can-ask-me-to-retire-because-to retire" 

Anyway jokes apart, Sachin, good that you joined politics. I mean, you need to be a politician to join BCCI or ICCI right? :P I know it is dadas aim too. Well i hope you both don't fight for this post in future. Otherwise, God of offside will be thrown off from the peoples mind and God of rest of the people will get vacated from their heart permanently.

I think this move of S will be a good image makeover for the politicians. Such is a sad state of Indian politics that even if a good person tries to do something, he gets pulled down. S didnt do well as an Indian captain, I hope he does well as the Captain of his constituency and then nobody will ask him to retire !! Right guys?? :)

I thought I was....

I thought I was the smartest kid in the school

100s of beautiful girls who thought I was a fool.

But, I believed what my eyes had SEEN was love.

And now? Things have changed and how?

I thought I was the most handsome hunk in the college

1000s of girls looking more beautiful at this age

I believed what I FELT in my heart was love.

And now? Things have changed and how?

I thought I was the most eligible bachelor

1000000llions of girls looking more and more spectacular

I believed what I THOUGHT in my mind was love.

And now? Things have changed and how?

Well now,

I think I am the greatest husband

Since the moment I took your hand.

You taught me love is Caring, Sharing and Supporting

Everything else is INFATUATION or nothing.

I promise to keep this definition of love intact

In my mind, body and soul in fact

Thank you, is a smallest phrase I can Say

I would like to wish us a very happy 1^st wedding anniversary Day !! :P

No one can ask me to retire, because to play cricket and play for India was my decision – Sachin Tendulkar !!

No one can ask me to retire, because to play cricket and play for India was my decision – Sachin Tendulkar !!

Hmm…. Sachin Tendulkar. One of the biggest cricketing legend, great human and a proud Indian. I once loved him play. I don’t enjoy watching him now as much as I used to watch him few years ago. May be I loved his cricket more than the man he is. Cricket gives you happiness. It makes you proud to be Indian if you love the game. It’s the same with any sport for that matter. So I watch cricket because it makes me happy. When my country gets defeated I get defeated. Therefore I will want my country or team to win. To win we need a team better than any other team. Team is made of people. So we need people who are at the best. Forget the past. It is present and the future that matters to me.

So I was wondering. When I reach 60 and when I am not as smart as the newly recruited young blood in the company, would I tell my company, “Nobody can tell me to retire. Nobody helped me to study. I worked hard to get recruited to this company. So nobody has the right to ask me to retire.” Well I could have told this if I own the company. But I don’t own the company. I am just the part of my team.  So in my 60s can I think like this? “In the past, in my younger days, I have worked really hard in this company and I was called the master in what I did. I set very high standards. I was smart, I brought more business. Now things have changed. The way people do business has changed. I am old now, I am more experienced than these young guys but I don’t have the energy to run behind clients, daily escalations. I still have the same passion but I feel I am letting my team down. I better at least let my employers know when I will retire and take it easy, so that they can recruit a young guy like me who is waiting for his chance to have a go at this world.”

This is my point of view. I am not saying that Sachin should retire. Well I don’t have the rights to say that. However, I have the right to say that my team should not be defeated badly consistently. All the steps should be taken to make sure this doesn’t happen. Nobody is bigger than the team.

Sachin is the greatest player and he is the greatest batsman but the decision to retire is not only his. It should be a collective decision. There are so many young players for whom Sachin is nothing less than God. But they shouldn’t be waiting on the bench for their God to give them a chance to be God.  I am no one to say that Sachin should retire, but the decision is not entirely his. If it is so, then the selectors are just dummies who want to make money with Sachin as brand for Indian cricket. The decision should be mutual and graceful.

Just passion for a thing is not enough. One should every day evaluate if someone can do the job better than them. If the answer is yes, it’s time to pass on the baton. There is no point in holding on to that baton and walk. The young guy on the last lap will die waiting for you to reach him. Your team will be second or third but never first. The passion to run was there but was constrained by physical ability. Even if you are 2^nd or 3^rd, you will still feel defeated, because you have set so high standard for yourself that people can only accept you as no 1, every time, each time you run. So run that last race, run with all your might, feel peoples love for you, see the respect in their eyes, the same love they had for you when you were at your peak, run as if you are in 20, run the last race, pass on the baton and in the end when you have contributed for the teams win and seen everything in your life, just hang on the boots. Only you know when to run that last race. I like you Sachin but I like my team India more. Now don’t tell me I never played for India, how I would know. I know this for sure, because each time you had that cricket bat in your hand, million hearts prayed that you don’t get out because they wanted India to win !! Why is that today when you hold the same cricket bat I am not much worried? That’s because today Indian cricket has so many match winners who have grown around you and learnt from you. Today when my team is defeated, I don’t blame you. I blame the team, because when I blame you, people come up with facts to support that you are not the guy to be blamed. It is true, you are the best. But God will be questioned, because He is God and every time, his followers will bring the bible, kuran and so on to support that God is greatest, but I just sometimes wonder. If God is really as powerful as people say he is, then why does he need supporters or followers? May be that’s what makes him God !! Ultimately, it’s up to the people who support you. I hope you get good things to hear from everyone when you decide to change your role in Indian cricket and take up bigger, different responsibilities!!

I have a problem with 'INVENTION'

I have a problem with 'Invention' !!

I don’t like the word invention simply because according to my theory nothing can be invented and therefore nothing in this world can be owned. Everything that we do is a discovery!! No matter how big or sophisticated it is. Everything is a projection of the human senses controlled by mind.

Dictionary view for invent is : to design or create something such as a machine or process that did not exist before or to develop a new theory, style, or method that did not exist before. In other words you cannot invent anything that already exists before. Fine. Then did our ancestors really know about fire before it was discovered? Then can we call fire to be an invention?

This is my theory. Nothings that we do or create is our idea. We are not born with an idea to create a television or an extra ordinary time machine. On our journey in this world, we see, touch and feel a lot of things which is processed by our mind. Since each person’s mind is different, the interpretations could be many. There are many factors which affect the though process of a mind. They are all external, they are already present. So in other words, can we infer that discoveries lead to discoveries and not an invention?

Lets look at this story. A young man was wondering through a jungle and he finds a caterpillar. He noticed the ring like thing on the body of caterpillar. He noticed how this is allowing the caterpillar to be very flexible. He came back to town with an idea. We installed ring like structure to the commercially available rubber water hoses. This allowed the pipes to be more flexible and strong. You might have come across these green water pipe with rings in between. So should we call this an invention? I mean could this young man own this? Of course he can claim that he was lucky to come across the caterpillar and his mind had lead him to think this way. What if the young man was lost in the woods and he was scared? Would his mind think about how the caterpillar was sophisticated? I don’t think so. Being at right time, right place and right frame of mind is what leads to discovery and not inventions.

The other reason why i don’t want to call anything as invention because you can patent it and own it. I hate the idea of owning discoveries (I don’t want to use the word invention any more). If someone even comes close to making something which is patented then he is pulled to court. Crazy. This leads to stagnation of an idea. An idea should grow as much as it can. It should not be kept in a high security prison called Patents. I mean patents is fine, if and only if it means that this was first discovered by so and so and nothing more. There shouldn’t be monopoly. Monopoly is against free thinking. A discovery needs free mind and patent kills it !!

I am great believer of Open source. More and more clients and companies are moving towards open source software’s because it is more flexible and economical. There is no monopoly. Its free from the prisons of patents, lawsuit and so on. That’s why it’s Free Source.

There are only discoveries in life. Some big, some small. some simple, some sophisticated. Nothing less, nothing more.

Pro-active to Re-active Expressions !!

Dogs!! I never had one but I love them for one reason. Go home after a long day and these cute ones will jump all over you as if they are seeing you for the first time after many weeks. Wagging tail furiously, licking your face and doing crazy dance suggesting how much it missed you all day. This it does every single day no matter how good or bad it feels. Then you look at you wife or husband, switching tv channels watching their favorite serial or movie, kids fighting in the background, as if you never existed. Makes you wonder why the most intelligent species on this earth has become so busy and self occupied that expression of love or care has just become a give and take business!!


Love is not restricted to Valentine’s Day or on you birthdays or anniversaries, or the day you receive expensive gift. You don’t have to wait that long or choose a date to say how much you love someone. We have replaced human expressions of love with materialistic expressions like diamonds, chocolates or expensive watches. Well, you can’t blame us when our history states that Shahjahan built Taj mahal in memory of dead wife. Well one of his 3 wives. God alone knows which trigonometric equation he used to express his love for 3 wives and 16 children. Anyway, did he have to wait that long to build this wonderful beauty? A wise man had once stated, “You don’t realize what you have until you lose it”. Similarly you don’t realize the value of expression until it’s too late and then you stay with guilt and burden entire life.

“Well I am like this, I have tried but I can’t change”. Is this your conscious telling you? Agreed, that there are positives and negatives in everyone. Also agreed that, the expression of love differs from person to person. Like Archana once stated in her blog, “You can’t be loved the way you want to be loved always. There are different ways to express.” However, there is no point in hiding behind the fact that there is no replacement for words and touch. I am not talking about Shakespeare here. Simple words like I miss you, thinking about you, I love you can do wonders to a relationship. Mean it when you say it and use it at a most unexpected time. Don’t wait for each other to say it first. It is reactive expression. “Pehley aap pehley aap kehkey gaadi chali jayegi”. Are you reactive? Do you find yourself saying, “Let him/her say it first then I will”, “Why should I always?” A reactive expression sounds like a bad business. It’s a business because you are looking at what you get in return and you don’t want to invest until then. It’s a bad business because, always one person finds him/her expressing a lot and other only reacting. This lets a lot of doubts get into the persons mind. “Am I loved the way I love or am I just listening to my echo?”

Hence the need for proactive expression. Whatever you do, do it proactively. Take the first step. Offer the help, don’t wait for the other person to ask. Express your feelings don’t always expect it from others. People change but change should happen from within. There is no point in someone pointing out and then holding that person responsible all your life for bringing in change in you that you didn’t wish to have. Don’t hide behind the screen of “I am like this, this is me.” It doesn’t help the relationship grow.

You don’t need commitment to do what you love but you need it a lot to do what you don’t like, but you have no choice. For example, you don’t need commitment to go to movie but to get up early morning every day and report to work every day, needs a commitment. Similarly in relationships if you are committed to make it work, then one can’t hide behind the fact that they are what they are. You must have listened to some old saying, “Relationship is like two wheels of the cart. If one stops reacting, or if one is too fast, you go around in circles.” And if one wheel starts going in opposite direction, the cart will break……….

Express proactively. Watch, learn and grow!!

Disclaimer: All the words and sentence, if anyone is able to connect with them is purely coincidental and unintentional. This is inspired by the picture posted at the beginning of this post.

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